Being a parent is quite possibly one of the hardest jobs that you will ever do. After all, you are responsible for a human being. If you don’t do your job right, the child and society both will pay the price.
Learn how to detect the signs of a troubled teen before they get out of control.
Pay close attention to your teenager. If you notice that they are withdrawing from you, it may be time to step in and find out what the problem is. It’s normal for teenagers to want to spend time alone in their bedroom. However, if they are not talking to you about their problems, it may be time to start searching for some extra information to help them to be happy.
If you notice that they are running around with a new group of kids, pay attention to these new kids. If they seem to be bad news, you may have a problem on your hands. Forbidding your child from hanging out with a certain group of people should be a last resort since it could make matters worse, and you may not have control over their behavior once they leave the house. Instead, try to encourage them in other ways. Get them involved in community activities, like sports, arts, and other events that will help them socialize with peers who can have a positive impact on them. Sometimes moving locations, or changing schools can also help separate them from negative peers, but only if they, themselves, are ready for change.
If your child has had excellent grades in the past and you notice a steep decline in school performance, that can be a huge indicator of trouble. Talk with your teenager and find out what you can do to help them. If they are in trouble, they probably aren’t going to tell you. Don’t get discouraged if they have a bad attitude towards you. Instead, love them anyway. It’s important to remember that even if they seem to be angry with you, they are probably just taking it out on you because they know that you are their safety net. They know that you are going to be there for them no matter what. This is why they feel as if they can blame you for their problems.
What can be done?
According to author and expert Stanley Martinson, “Don’t be afraid to check into counseling for your child if you are really worried about them.” Chances are that they are going through some things that they are not quite sure how to handle. If you think that your child is involved with drugs or alcohol, get them the extra information and help they need immediately. Otherwise, they could be in for a life of problems. Eventually, your child will turn out to be a respectful citizen that you can be proud of.